We have covered a lot of ground in our short time together, especially with regards to what you should do when trying to get the most out of Tinder. But, we still have plenty to teach you about avoiding Tinder fails that can destroy your chances of moving forward with a match.
You know what they say: knowledge is power. The more you know, the better equipped you’ll be to avoid these pitfalls and not end up like one of the Tinder laughing stocks we all take pleasure in reading about. So, before you hit the Tinder app again, check out these 10 Tinder fails that you should avoid at all costs.
1. Don’t hide your face from view
Would you trust the pickup lines and come-ons from a faceless stranger? No? Neither would she. Pretty much the biggest Tinder fail is to set up your profile with a photo that is either not you, or a weird photo that doesn’t show your face or, God forbid, having no photo whatsoever. Bite the bullet, show your face, and you’ll have much more successful matches.
2. Don’t give your match your life story
This isn’t alcoholics anonymous, it’s a fast paced, modern dating app – nobody wants to know the entire backstory of how you came to find yourself in your given career, or what mundane stuff you spent doing during your week – too much information, too early, is an insanely effective turn off, so keep it simple until they ask for more. This is a safety precaution, too. Remember, you have no idea who this person really is.
3. Don’t give out private personal details too quickly
Similar to the previous point, but much more important: don’t go giving out your home address or cell number to people straight away if you don’t feel comfortable with them. Make sure the person actually exists. Check Facebook, Instagram, and any other social networks you think your match might be on in addition to Googling their name. This is done as a comprehensive due diligence process meant to ensure that you are not talking with a registered sex offender or a convicted felon.
4. Please, wear a shirt in your profile photo
For your sake as much as everybody else’s – wear a shirt in your profile photo. Fine, you’re proud of all the gym time you’ve been putting in, but using a topless, tensed up photo to try and reel in the girls is just desperate, rather than impressive.
5. Don’t leave your bio blank
Aside from anything else, this makes it look like you’re not even interested enough to finish off the initial information portion. Nobody will be interested in a blank bio – massive Tinder fail.
6. Don’t overdo it
Maybe you’re one of the few on Tinder who is looking for something more substantial than a quick lay. There’s nothing wrong with that – other than the fact that you’re on Tinder – but remember not everybody is looking for the same thing, so don’t get too heavy too fast.
7. Don’t keep pressuring someone
Protip: if she hasn’t replied to you – she’s not interested. It’s as simple as that. No amount of bugging or super witty comments is going to change that. Continuous pestering is not only a massive Tinder fail, but it is also a general fail at life as well – keep going and you might just find your match calling the cops on you. Instead of ending up in jail or wasting time with a match who isn’t interested, leave it be, and move on to the next one.
8. Don’t use a massive group photo as your profile photo
Scientific, academic research has shown (okay, not really – but it is true), that if your profile photo is a massive group photo with more than one person in it, it’s almost guaranteed to result in no interest. If the girl has to spend five minutes working out which guy is you, and what you really look like, it probably isn’t worth her time.
9. Don’t fill your bio with an essay
A surprisingly common Tinder fail happens when people choose to write a 10 chapter novel in their bio. To avoid this, don’t see your bio box as a chance to write a thesis on your personality or your abilities as a potential mate. Nobody has the time to sift through massive swathes of information about someone they don’t even know.
Instead, keep your bio short, informative, sharp, funny, and witty. You can also pose questions, games, and instructions to trigger a response. One of my favourites is putting instructions such as “Swipe right if you’re a model, swipe left if you have a kid.” You can also play a game like 2 truths and a lie, and say something to the effect of “Message me if you think you know which one is the lie.”
10. You’re pulling some really cringeworthy pose in your profile photo – don’t
The best, most successful profile photos look quite natural. There’s nothing wrong with making yourself look your best, or posing for a photograph – but don’t over egg it. Avoid the whole duckface look, and please, avoid the Zoolander-esque Blue Steel rip off. It’s just going to make people laugh at you.
Hopefully, this list of Tinder fails will better educate you on where you can go wrong with the dating app. It’s really not too difficult once you know what to avoid.